Fluttering Alert: Team WH or Team YJ?

There’s a poster @Sulistya_Wati who wrote a thought-provoking reaction to another poster’s comment in soompi.

I’ll write my response here because I don’t have time to switch back and forth. If a lurker here wants to, she can post this post’s link over there. Thanks!! I’ll probably edit again later if I think of anything more to add.

Here’s what she wrote in blue italics. I only edited it a little for clarity.

1. I never saw WH force his will on YJ. He’s always respected her. So, when YJ chose to get in SH car even when WH was already there, she basically was choosing to leave him. But WH’s reaction is still to respect her choice to leave. She left because she didn’t want to hear his explanation. He already searched for her (and found her) but she still left him. He did try and yet, she still left him.

I agree. WH doesn’t impose on YJ. It goes against his independent nature. When he asked her to visit his mother because his mother requested it, he was very uneasy and apologetic.

However, he’s only human. Of course, it would hurt him to see her leave with the Best Friend Forever. Off the top of my head, I’ll list a few reasons why his feelings would be hurt.

1) he’s hurt because he’s jealous that BFF was at her side instead of him.
2) he’s hurt because she refused to let him take her home.
3) he’s hurt that she wouldn’t see his side after what he told her earlier that night. “Let’s not hate each other and push each other away. I hope we can always trust each other.”
4) he’s hurt that she left her side after she told him earlier that night, too, that she wouldn’t make him lonely EVER.
5) above all, I think he’ll feel hurt because SHE’S HURTING because of him. Call this empathy or love.

His reasons for feeling hurt will be valid. He isn’t being self-centered or over-sensitive.

But I can also see that, because he loves her very much, he can’t and won’t condemn her, be angry with her or even feel jealous of her friendship with BFF for long.

Again, that’s part of his nature. Except for his father, he doesn’t hold grudges. Remember his mom? He was hurt when he found out his mother’s lie about her cancer and her reason for doing it. But he didn’t condemn her.

Likewise, he was hurt and disappointed with YJ’s decision to leave (with her BFF of all people! But again, he didn’t know that she tried calling her brother and manager first),  but he wouldn’t remain hurt and disappointment over a long period of time.

He’ll come around, understand her decision and even abide by it should she decide to leave him for good. That’s what we mean by “respecting” her decision.

Off the top of my head, I can also list a few reasons why it wouldn’t be hard for him to understand her decision to up-and-leave that night.

1) he knows that she’s hurting because of him
2) he knows that she needs friends and family around her right then
3) he knows he underestimated his father’s and HyeJoon’s duplicity and should have done something sooner to stop them
4) he knows he missed his timing to come clean with YJ earlier
5) he knows that her anger had nothing to do with his relationships with his father and HY but his nondisclosure/lack of trust to tell her sooner
6) he knows that she needs time and space to come around to him

See that?

In YJ’s defense, she did have a right to get angry at him. I would have gone ballistic too and I would have walked away as well in order to cool down.

However, what she should have done differently, as I said in another post, was to give him a time limit and reassure him that she wasn’t leaving him.

You see, he has abandonment issues. I also mentioned this a couple of times: he searched for her when she stayed in his clinic after her accident, and he searched for her when he was sedated after his stabbing incident.

AND she knew that he has abandonment issues. That’s why she made him that vow about not leaving him.

Thus, storming off like that AND riding home with her BFF were serious judgment errors.

In my view, her errors are equivalent to his judgment errors. He delayed revealing to her about his family circumstances and he was didn’t take a more proactive stance in blocking off Wannabe Wife’s meddling and derailment of YJ’s career. All he did was tell Wannabe to stop it and then seek help from his stepmother. He delegated the task of stopping Wannabe Wife to someone else when he had promised to WALK in front of YJ.

So both are at fault and both are in the right. Off with their heads!

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And forming teams to rally the troops around one misunderstood girl against another equally misunderstood guy isn’t helpful in a couple relationship. lol. That’s a zero-sum game that I’m not going to play here. 🙂

I say let their errors cancel each other out so they can move on from this with better understanding of each other.

7 Comments On “Fluttering Alert: Team WH or Team YJ?”

  1. Well said @packmule3 ! At that time emotions got the better of them, more so YJ. But that’s how they reacted which is normal for a couple whose still trying to get to know each other AND one that is ready to give up everything just so they can be together.

    They needed time to take in the issue and as it is they’ve both decided that they will stick to each other. We just haven’t seen the reconciliation yet ☺️

  2. I haven’t watched the preview so I don’t know what to expect. 🤷‍♀️

    Of course, YH would fly off the handle. She didn’t see it coming. He did.

    And let’s wait and see when he finds out why his fire fighter dad has been alone all these years. Will he be disappointed or mad at her for holding a grudge against her dad all these years? 😂

  3. I hated how WH had to see YJ get in the car of BFF… But he was the only one to answer her call. But WH did not know that so YJ hurt him.

    I still wish he at least called or text (better choice cuz if she doesn’t answer, she will probably read) even if hurt to save themselves. You can see YJ waiting for something on her phone. I don’t like how he is keeping her in the dark.. I know she kept him from telling her that night, but usually bad news don’t happen that fast an d he had plenty of chances to tell her. He even contemplated telling her in ep 7 but he chose not to. Why?
    Then they gave him the perfect time to tell her was when he took her out of her meeting with the witch but he still didn’t… So when she asks for one night of happiness from the seriousness, I can’t fault her as much as I fault him. And he is still keeping her in the dark with him finally fighting back and the lawsuit… I know he wants to protect her but at least tell her even if she doesn’t listen. I also hate how he still keeps meeting with the witch.

    With YJ, if he doesn’t tell you what was the deal with WH and the witch, ask! You are usually the bold one. Hate how she made him feel lonely. Granted, she also has abandonment issues with her dad. Different type of issue. Anywayzzz, she seemed to have lost her touch of going over to her “ex’s” house when drunk. Wish she did it this time.

    Then, YJ is finally not angry at WH as she defended him to her manager. But she had no confidence of seeing him. She had no confidence being by his side or letting him go. So she avoids him…. This, I hate. She should have told him that she is no longer angry but needs time to sort things out so he is not feeling lonely and abandoned.

    Anywayzzz, I did like the childhood flashbacks esp the dad. I understand why she got mad. She knows it wasn’t the dad’s fault but she was a kid. She saw him as a superhero who saved people and probably idolized him… but he wasn’t there when she needed him to save her and her mom. His superhero cape and mask came off and she probably stopped believing in superheroes.

    Anywayzzz(again), what is YH? I keep seeing you write YH.

  4. Of all you wrote this was what I liked the most: let their errors cancel each other out so they can move on from this with better understanding of each other.
    And I am a supporter of both teams.Here applies a phrase of the movie Jerry Maguire (Tom Cruise): You complete me.

    It is that both WH is good for Yj and vice versa,by the way, these last episodes have raised passions among viewers of Love Alert

  5. Oh good question about what would WH think of how YJ treated her Dad all these years. Though she did say to him a bit of their story right? When they visited her Mom in her grave site.

    When YJ was talking to her Mom’s tree in her house, I thought she felt that it’s time for her to forgive her Dad too but then she’s never made contact with him after that.

    Let’s do another question, how will YJ react to the fact that she lost her Mom because her Dad was saving WH?

    I hope we get to see our milk couple together at least this week. I’m 🤞 ! I did not see any scene of them from the preview.

  6. Looks like YJ and her Dad will finally see each other. I saw a picture of them together at YJ’s house in IG.

    Dad looks scared 🙁 and YJ still looks angry.

  7. I am not a YJ team neither CWH. I just don’t get it when we as viewer dividing this character of by supporting one role while we put down other role as a bad character. I just don’t get it. I love the two of them as a couple. And these two never failed to impress me as a viewer. These two just adorable together, their overflowing chemistry makes me feel like I am teenagers inside. I had been watching so many with good drama with great acting skill, but with drama I just giggling and giddy with their interaction with each other. They potrayed the character really natural as a lover. I couldn’t help, but keep falling in love with these two. Even without steamy kiss, they gives me so many butterflies in my stomach. I know that this drama had so many flaws but still it’s it’s the best drama so far imo.

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