For @agdr03 who drew my attention to the hickey in Episode 19.
I’m trying to remember the last time I saw a hickey on a kdrama. I don’t think I’ve seen one. Have you? Not in Hwayugi. I recall being grossed out by Lee Seunggi slobbering all over that poor girl’s face but I don’t recall her sporting a hickey afterward.
So this is my first Hickey Analysis. Congratulations, show! We’re certifiably crazy about this show that I’ve to stoop to making hickey analysis.
Hey, @phoenix did you notice this? What do you think?
Hmmm… how do we explain that hickey?
a. It’s a bruise, a contusion.
But unlike any other bruises that Weiwei could get from an accident, sports or workplace injury, a hickey is created out of a very private and intimate encounter between Mr. Lips and Ms. Neck. And the result of that secret rendezvous of Mr. Lips and Ms. Neck is a very public and visible purplish blotch on Weiwei’s unblemished skin. Whether he intended to or not,Nai branded her as his girlfriend for the world to see. People who knew the couple would know that they were engaged in necking at the sight of that hickey.
The hickey told us that Nai was sucking on Weiwei’s neck long enough and hard enough, to cause her small blood vessels to burst and her skin to discolor.
See? She couldn’t let her friend Er Xi see that evidence of a passionate interlude. She’ll never be able to live it down.
b. It’s also called a love bite.
In a consensual relationship (I’ve to add that qualifier in this age of #metoo), the receiver of the kiss, or hickee, would have agree to be kissed like that.
This gif is plain ordinary necking. The guy’s lips are roaming around her neck.
In a hickey, however, the hickee would have to sucked hard on the same area for about 10 to 30 seconds. Do you want to know how long 10 minutes is? Set the timer and suck the back of your hand for 10 seconds.
Now imagine that sucking motion applied to your neck. Your neck is an erogenous zone. It’s soft, sensitive and ticklish…like a cat.
Do you see what I mean? The main point of Weiwei’s hickey is that she stood still for it. lol. The fact that the purple mark existed tells me that Weiwei didn’t shy away or move away when he kissed her in her hot spot.
Now, many viewers gave the character Weiwei (or the actress) a bad rap for being motionless. I’ll explain my take on this on another post.
For now, all I can say this: viewers often missed the DELICIOUS element of being motionless.
Sometimes staying motionless and fighting the body’s need to move, clench, clasp, embrace, moan, and essentially, REACT to the sensory stimuli and the sensuality of moment, is sexiness in itself. A great actor can convey eroticism (or orgasm, for that matter, lol) without eight arms flailing like an octopus. But there lots of stinky actors who can’t project sexy even with full frontal nudity.
lol. Do you want me to explain further? Let me digress then.
Standing motionless is a seduction game. A girl can dare a guy to make her lose her head and scream, and the guy won’t be able to resist the challenge. The more she keeps quiet and resists him, the more he tries to seduce her.
Look: if I were Nai, and Weiwei stood still in front of me, almost nose-to-nose, and looked at me straight in the eyes, then lowered her gaze to my lips, and held her breath, or bit her lips or blushed, I would consider her body language as tempting.
I would hold back a smile, and think, “Okay, Weiwei. Let’s see how long you can resist if I do this…or this…or thiss…” The more she held herself back and pretended to be unmoved (or motionless, lol), the more I would provoke and tease her.” Two can play this game.
Do you see what I mean?
By the way, how come I know this? Simple. My generation of women was part of that whole sexual revolution and movement to influence and change social norms. So I don’t care if shut-shame me.
To me, that’s the whole point of that weird fantasy/seduction scene in Episode 18. To me, it wasn’t stupid and it helped me understand what Weiwei was going through. It’s clear that Weiwei doesn’t grasp her sexual and emotional changes and her dream reflects her confusion.
If you notice, Weiwei’s fantasy is SEDUCTION. She fantasizes about seducing Nai. She literally dreams about it. The title of the script in her dreams is a giveaway, “Seducing the Despotic Company President.”
Unconsciously, her mind uses a “script” as a pretext to seduce him. In her dream, she HAS no choice but to seduce her boss Nai because she’s ordered to do so by the director. lol. That virgin/whore dichotomy strikes again! She isn’t a bad girl because she’s only told to do something bad, and her obedience to the command makes her good.
Anyway, her mind rewinds and replays their encounter in his office when he kissed her against the wall, and she was too shy to respond.
In her dream, however, it’s reversed. She now holds the power over him as she’s the one who instigates the flirtation. She wears her red dress and, while lounging at the door, she issues her come-hither invitation. “Mr. Xiao, I heard you were hiring interns. Do you think I’m a good fit?” And he replies, “I’ll have to try to find out.”
lol. In her dream, she seduces Nai to approach her and kiss her against the wall. When she successfully entices him, the director calls “cut!” and praises them for a fine performance. Weiwei then wakes up from her fantasy, smiling.
When she realizes that she dreamt about seducing Nai, she was utterly embarrassed.
To me, her dream also demonstrates her REPRESSION. In the office when she kissed him, she suppressed her desire to return the kiss for a variety of reasons: her shyness, her halitosis (lol) and the awkward time and place. Then in her dream state, her inhibitions resurfaces. In her sleep, her repressed feelings come out and she relives that embarrassing moment.
However, this time, she’s takes charge of her inhibition. Her unconscious mind “corrects” her kiss encounter with Nai.
She couldn’t kiss him in the privacy of his office, and she couldn’t kiss him out in the streets in public out of fear of other people witnessing them. But in her sleep, she conquers both her inhibitions by kissing him in the office, in full and public view of the production crew filming their kiss. lol. Did you see that?
It’s funny that in her dream, she loses her inhibitions and becomes an exhibitionist of sorts.
In sum, she fantasizes about seduction but she represses her desire as unacceptable and embarrassing for a young lady like her.
Ahem. Just so you’ll know: being pushed up against a wall and restrained are common scenes in erotica. Why? Look it up if you want to. I’m not going to tell you. pwahahaha.
Now, that’s my interpretation of the dream sequence, let’s get back to the hickey.
c. It’s a badge of honor. Wear it with pride! lol.
I wasn’t surprised that Weiwei knew she had a hickey even before she saw herself in the bathroom mirror. She was covering her neck with the blanket when Er Xi knocked on the door, then her palm covered it when she went to the bathroom. She knew it was there because she remembered being kissed and the spot was still tender.
She saw the hickey as a stigma but I would have advised her not to be ashamed nor stressed out about it. I would have shown her how to have fun with it, like draw a red heart with an arrow through it to show the dateless that she had been kissed passionately by her handsome boyfriend.
She could also lie and say that she burned herself accidentally with her curling iron.
She could brag and say that Nai only cared enough to send the very best…of kisses. She could blame the vacuum cleaner; it got caught on her neck while she was cleaning Xiaoling’s apartment.
She could brazen it out and say that it was a special birthmark that appeared during her allergies. She could flaunt it and say that it was a new neck accessory; Nai promised to give her matching one, on the other side of her neck, on their next date.
Eat Suck your heart out, world!
Besides a hickey lasts only a few days unlike those stupid tattoos with your boyfriend’s name on it. Hickeys >>>> tattoos
Seriously now, for Weiwei, it’s a sign of her trust in him. Nobody exposes her vulnerable neck for sucking on unless she explicitly trusts him not to hurt her. (Think of vampires and Robert Pattinson’s Edward from that Twilight series.)
As for the hicker or sucker Nai, the hickey can be viewed as a branding. Nai isn’t embarrassed to tell the world that she’s his girl. “Don’t touch! She’s mine.”
But most importantly, the hickey is a sign of his being in an altered state. Her neck was so yummy that in the heat and height of passion, Nai forgot himself.
And that is the real reason, @agdr03, that I’m gobsmacked about this hickey. Considering how aloof, self-contained, self-conscious, self-possessed, self-aware, and self-whatever this Nai is, he totally lost his head while he was kissing her.