I haven’t watched the show in its entirety. Wednesdays are usually a killer for me at work.

But I checked out this incident with the car door because it appears like the whole argument of YeLiners on MinHo being a monster-in-the-making hinges on this particular scene. True, many MinHo shippers can counter-argue that it was an accident but the YeLiners will simply point out that we’re excusing or condoning ABUSIVE behavior.

So, I’m going to say that MinHo’s action was neither accidental nor abusive. 😈

In their rush to paint MinHo all-black and their oppa all-white, those idiotic fangirls 🙄 of Ye Jae Wook overlook the single, most telling sign of abuse: FEAR. An abusive relationship is one based on FEAR.

Abuse is when one partner feels AFRAID:

–of angering the other,
-of being hurt or mistreated,
-of failing to live up to expectations
-of being forced into non-consensual sexual relations
-of having contact with family and friends
-of being apart from the other, and
–of being killed.

Really. I wish these anti-MinHo dimwits would stop brandying the term abuse to gain sympathy for their Ye oppa, because their mass hysteria cheapens and demeans the experience of actual abuse victims.

The fact is BoYoung did not feel ABUSED by MinHo when she approached him. SHE actually felt that she was the one who hurt AND mistreated MinHo.

Prior to approaching him in the car, she reflected on his numerous acts of kindness and consideration to her. She realized this: It’s true. I took a lot of MinHo’s time but got caught dating secretly. I bet he felt really betrayed. I’d be mad, too.  

Two things that have to be emphasized to the YeLiners here. First, BoYoung accepted that the fault was hers. Secondly, BoYoung accepted that MinHo’s anger and sense of betrayal were justified. She, too, would have felt the same had she been in his shoes.

Had she been “abused” as these YeLiners claim, she would NOT have approached MinHo. There was no FEAR in her when she tapped on his car window. She was feeling guilty and apologetic because she knew that MinHo was right in calling her out. More importantly, she knew that MinHo skipped lunch to avoid her. He was distancing himself from her.

Again, these YeLiners couldn’t understand that if MinHo was an abuser, he wouldn’t have allowed BoYoung eat lunch with the rest of the group while he sat out in the car. DUH. An abuser would have emotionally blackmailed her into skip lunch without him. An abuser would have used FEAR to get her to search for him and entreat him to eat.

But MinHo opted to skip lunch because he needed a personal time-out and space away from her. He was simply THAT upset with her that he preferred to take a nap inside the car than be with her company (and Ye’s). BoYoung was right to guess that he was separating himself from the group to avoid her.

BY: (Tapping on the window CONFIDENTLY. An abused woman would do this TIMIDLY.)
MH: (Opening the window RELUCTANTLY. An abuser would have congratulated himself for his success in emotionally manipulating his partner.) What? Why?
BY: Eat some food.
MH: (Looking away.) No thanks. You can go.

He was NOT sulking here. That’s a wrongful accusation. He didn’t want to eat. He actually wanted SPACE from her because he was mad.

BY: Don’t be mad, MinHo. I thought about it and I get why you’re mad. But I misunderstood Dr. Ye.
MH: I told you to go.

I repeat: he wanted SPACE from her. BoYoung could NOT read the signs because SHE was self-absorbed…as usual. She should have left him alone. She didn’t get that MinHo wanted to BE ALONE. He was in no mood to hear her out. To me, she INSISTED because she wanted to have HER WAY. She wanted to have her cake and eat it too. That is, she wanted to date Dr. Ye, and she wanted MinHo’s approval as well.

More importantly, while she “understood” that MinHo was mad, she was actually telling him to forget his anger because she was now happy. In other words, his anger is only a “collateral” to her happiness. Never mind that you’re angry, MinHo, because I’m happy. You should be happy for ME. Stop being angry!  

lol. That’s how the poem, “Life is like an Installation Savings Account” by Kim Shi Tak applies to MinHo and BoYoung. Did you get it?  The poem goes, “Will we be able to get a cancellation refund? Life is like a lifelong redeemable bond.” Boyoung wanted MinHo’s anger CANCELLED OUT because she found her happiness. Like a loan shark, she was hounding him about his anger as a trade-off or a “redeemable bond” to her romance.  😂

BY: I got it.

No, she didn’t get it one bit. Otherwise, she would have stopped there. MinHo didn’t enjoy this discussion. He wanted her out of his sight because he knew he would lose his cool – and his temper – with her. “Go!” isn’t hard to understand, is it? But again, BoYoung was oblivious to HIS feelings, and INSISTED on being heard out. She was trying to CONVINCE him even though he didn’t want to hear about it anymore.

BY: Yah! But isn’t it more important that I like Doctor Ye… (See? She was persistent.)
MH: (Opens the door to stop her from prattling on about Doctor Ye. She falls down.)

For me, BoYoung was actually HARASSING MinHo. He told her to go. He already indicated TWICE that he wanted space from her but she persisted on being in his face. Literally and metaphorically, in his face.

Thus, to stop from pestering him, he bumped her SLIGHTLY with that door. Contrary to the YeLiners’ biased interpretation, the car door did NOT hit her hard enough to knock her down. She actually moved back and, as clumsy as she was, she tripped over her own feet.

lol. If I were MinHo, I would have shouted at her to shut up. Instead, he coldly repeated that he wanted her to leave. “I told you to go.”  He didn’t help her up although she was moaning on the ground. In my opinion, she was faking it to get his sympathy. Had she really been hurt, she would have gotten feisty with him and YELLED at him, “Minho!! Help me out!” when he walked out.

And to me, her falling down was “cosmic payback” or “writer’s intervention,” if you want to see that way.  Remember when she did this to him? Where was the faux anger then? lol.

Her push back then is equivalent in intensity and in purpose to his push right here.

If his “unwanted” attention back then in Episode 8 warranted her pushing him off her with her hand, then her “unwanted” attention in Episode 14 allowed him to push her off him with the car door.

lol. When he does it, it’s adultery; when she does it, it’s romance. 

😂😅😜😂😅😜

By the way, what’s the word on BoYoung’s shirt? Love something?  I could only read “Love Q” and I don’t know if it mean love quarrel.