In Episode 14, Shihyun warns SooJi not to use their friendship as a weapon.
Some people think he’s a fine one to talk when he was guilty too of planning to use their marriage to get back at their parents.
What do YOU think? Do you see a difference? A similarity? I want to hear people’s view before I post my own op. Tamara? Oli? Table122000? Dorotka?
Thanks.
Not only there’s a difference, actually I think SH’s plan to marry SooJi to break their parents doesn’t count at all as “using their friendship as a weapon”.
Because that scenario would have been them joining forces for a common goal. Yes, it could count as a weapon against their parents’ relationship but I don’t think that’s what SH meant when he said it the first time. Their marriage plan (the fake marriage) would not be SH using SooJi or SooJi using him (if she wouldn’t use that plan to get married to him for real), would be them joining hands for another purpose.
SH offers SooJi a pretty fair deal.. a fake marriage in which he gives her all the control: “You can use me as a joker too. Make use of me. If you don’t want to get divorced, you don’t have to. If you want anything, get everything you want. I don’t care.”
On the other hand SooJi uses their friendship against SH all the time (she does that to SeJoo too but we’re not talking about that). She asks him to do things for her, to seduce whatever person she needs for a revenge. She insists he do things he doesn’t want to do and emotionally blackmails him. I’m not sure I’ve ever seen her think of giving back ten fold what she asks for (like SH who asks her to do that fake marriage and in return she can use him all she wants for as long as she wants). I’m not sure exactly if she’s giving back much anyway, while the 2 boys act as her minions.
Using their friendship as a weapon in her case means she does not allow him to do what he wants and love who he wants because she needs this or that.
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You explained it well, Oli! 💯
I don’t get why these SJ fangirls are oblivious to nuance. Their love for their “multi-faceted” Drama Queen is getting in the way of their appreciation of the whole drama.
Sorry my wrist and hands aren’t friends with me at the moment but I’ve read you’re posts and I’m going to reply. If I make mistakes overlook them please hahaa.
When Sooji came back with that reply It did make me think “hmm is she right?” My answer was yes and no lol.
The only way I could think of him using their friendship as a weapon was in beginning when he said they should get married. If the woman marrying his father wasn’t Sooji’s mum Sihyun would’ve seduced her like he did the other woman who smiled at his dad. So instead he thought of them getting married to cause displeasure to his father/save sooji’s mother from the monster he is (even though their parents are cut from the same cloth).
BUT
SH telling Sooji to not use their friendship as a weapon was in response to her emotionally blackmailing him. I think after trying to guilt trip him by saying he was just as selfish as his dad for giving up on the bet (as if they equal the same thing :/ but it again shows you that she really did want to marry him and not as friends) he flipped.
Sooji (as well as Sejoo) should no more than anyone WHY Sihyun detests his father and why, like your Apple’s post discusses, he is trying to not him. Comparing him to the likes of his father to get what she wants is definitely using their friendship as a weapon and a low blow because only Sejoo and Sooji are privy to that information(more reasons to dislike the girl). So in this context there’s a difference. SH isn’t using Sooji’s insecurities or fears as a means to get information about who the woman his dad is seeing.
What they didn’t show in episode 14 that they showed in 15 was the dialogue in between Sooji saying he’s seeing someone else and him going nuts demanding her to tell him who she was. Sooji said it seemed like they had a long history, their the same age etc.. It dawned on Sihyun that this woman must be his first love that his father couldn’t let go of. Him wanting to know who she is doesn’t make him and Sooji’s friendship a weapon, it makes the information a weapon he can used against his father.
I guess if it means that the information coming from Sooji’s mouth makes their friendship a weapon her argument could be supported :/ lol.
So basically no lol
“SH isn’t using Sooji’s insecurities or fears as a means to get information about who the woman his dad is seeing.” YES. I love reading your comments Tamara! This is what SH means with using their friendship as a weapon. SooJi using information she has because they are close (info gained through their friendship) and the fact that he likes their friendship (so he wants to keep it and help her if she really needs something) AGAINST HIM.
He did no such thing to her.
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I like what you said about her action being a low blow. There’s a difference in their understanding of “using” their friendship. In SH’s original offer of a marriage of convenience, “using their friendship” would only connote capitalizing on their mutual relationship. As Oli said, the two of them would be together. Bring it on, Scheming Parents!! They’re in it to win it!
But in SJ’s version of marriage offer, “using their friendship” is EXPLOITING their friendship – in so many ways. She was guilt-tripping him by accusing him of being selfish. She already heard him say no but she persisted because they were friends and he had promised to be there for each. She knew he detested his father yet she provoked him to get him to side with her. In all these, she used her “inside information” on him as longtime friends to get him to do what she wanted. That is what SH was referring to when he said stop using their friendship as a weapon. She exploits their connection to injure others but also to hurt themselves. She’s out of whack.
Wow! @Tamara, @oli,@packmule3. Great analysis- you’ve covered it all for me. I don’t have anything to add. Nice job!
Three heads are better than one. 🙂
Three heads are definitely better than one. Oli I love reading your comments too!
“There’s a difference in their understanding of “using” their friendship.” Yes like you and Oli said for sihyun its for a greater purpose were they both gain, while for Sooji its a manipulation tactic against her own ‘friend’. I maybe wrong but I think it truly reflects their roles and where they stand in their friendship group.