Hometown Cha Cha Cha: Ep 3 On Being Self-Centered

A theme is the underlying message of the story. We all know that each episode revolves around a theme. Personally, I don’t like it when the script delivers the message blatantly. For one, it feels patronizing. It’s as if the writer doesn’t expect his viewers to get the message unless a neon sign is flashing, “This is the theme!”

For another, a forced message doesn’t convince anyone but the most gullible. When a theme is overdone, I often suspect the writer of virtue-signaling or covering up a plot hole. Take for instance, in “Hospital Playlist 2,” the “love conquers all” message upends and makes a mockery of the heroine’s characteristic fortitude and prudence.

I like that in this episode, the theme was solidly established although the writer didn’t shove it in my face.

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The theme was introduced with the sounds of the sleepy village. The various sounds emphasized the simple lifestyles:

putt-putting of boats in the sea
strumming of a guitar
humming of credit card machine
wailing siren of the police car
sizzling of grilled fish
grinding of an inkstick on an inkwell
yelling at a taekwondo class
whump-whumping of a baby’s heart on a sonagram, and
the chiming of the wind bell.

These distinct sounds showed everyone going about their daily lives.

In contrast to these sounds, there was the announcement of a package arriving for HyeJin. In a voiceover she said, “This is the sound of Ms. Yoon HyeJin, who’s from Seoul, rushing out to receive a package.”

Her sound was different from the rest because it signaled a commotion, and heralded a “Me! Me! Me!” atmosphere. The deliveries were all for her.

She kept ordering online until the ever-patient Chief Hong (I prefer to call him Chief Hong than Dusik) finally protested behind a wall of delivery boxes.

Hong: What are you doing? Why are you ordering so much?
HJ: There’s quite a bit today. I’m sorry.
Hong: Come on. Seriously. You order from all over the world. The US, Germany, England….They’re from everywhere.
HJ: I just bought some clothes. That’s all. And it’s none of your business.
Hong: Why do you need so many clothes?
HJ: A fashion terrorist like you would never understand

Although their bickering was cute, the whole point of this scene was to display Chief Hong’s disapproval of her excessive shopping. To him, she was wasting money on too many things for herself. She was being reckless with her money. She could have been saving her money in order to return to her beloved city. She was over-indulgent with herself. Blah blah blah.

He didn’t know that HyeJin (HJ) was preparing for a wedding. She was over-compensating because she didn’t want to be pitied. She needed to project an image of success in a fashion face-off with her old college classmates.

But Chief Hong wasn’t HJ’s binary opposition in this episode (remember what I said about “binary opposition”?). It was actually the grandmother, Mrs. Gamri (GR).

The difference between the two ladies came to light on the car ride to Seoul. Sticky potato balls were offered as snack, but HJ declined on the purported reason that she was driving and needed her hands to drive. (To me, she was either being a food snob or didn’t want her clothes messed up. lol)

In response, Chief Hong stuffed the potato ball in her mouth.

But in the other corner of the car, GR also avoided eating the potato ball. Chief Hong noticed it and to stop the others from nagging, she took a bite. She instantly winced. She grumbled that it was undercooked and too tough to chew. In response, the other grannies pointed out that her teeth were at fault here, not the potato ball. HJ offered to look at her teeth at her clinic.

The next day, Chief Hong verified for himself that GR had teeth problems. He noticed that she was eating just the soft rice at the lunch she prepared for them, and even that caused her pain.

So finally, he piggy-backed her to HJ’s dental clinic to get her teeth checked out.

 

lol. A good number of interpretations can be derived from the contrasting images of Chief Hong’s two deliveries: delivering GR to HJ’s clinic, and delivering packages to HJ’s door.

But the most obvious is that HJ was willing to spend on her outfits while GR wasn’t willing to spend on her implants.

HJ recommended implants but GR balked at the cost of the implants. She’d rather have her teeth pulled out.

HJ: Your teeth aren’t just something you can pull out. It could even be life-threatening for the elderly. You won’t be able to eat well, then you won’t get enough nutrients. Your bones will weaken and make hard to walk. It could get really serious.
Hong: (stepping in) Hey, you don’t have to scare her like that.
HJ: Are you short on money?
Hong: (stepping in again) Hey!
GR: What?
HJ: Don’t you have enough money?
GR: Not enough money? What do you take me for? I own a house here and a big area of land. That’s not all. My son works as an accountant in Seoul. Gosh. And my granddaughter goes to Harvard University in America.
HJ: So you just don’t want to spend money on your treatment? Then, I have nothing more to say. You can leave.

I like that Chief Hong attempted to mediate between the two women. He wanted them to come to a middle ground by offering to pay for the service out of his own pocket. Though it meant foregoing his purchase of an item he ordered at the hardware store, he was determined to get GR have the implants.

But the two women were obstinate in their own ways. It was to be expected that a proud old lady like GR would feel insulted by his offer of money. But I don’t think he expected HyeJin’s reason for getting mad at GR offer to pay, too. Chief Hong misread HJ’s anger earlier. When she told him, “A dental clinic isn’t a convenience store where you can ask for whatever you want,” he interpreted that as HJ feeling insulted that her services were being discounted. That is, she was insulted that GR refused to listen to her advice, and thought her fees were exorbitant.

Chief Hong realized that he was mistaken when he called her out for a talk.

Hong: Do you know what those lights are?
HJ: Who cares?
Hong: They’re squid boats. Those fishermen are hard at work. But from afar, those boats just look like pretty lights. Mrs. Gamri has been cleaning squid for decades now. But she never gets sick of them and loves squid the most, although she hasn’t eaten them for years.
HJ: If you’re trying to evoke sympathy, just stop.

Notice the way that Chief Hong communicated his thoughts and compare it to HJ’s blunt style.

Earlier, he told HJ that she could’ve worded her advice to GR “nicely.” He said he understood what she meant, but she could’ve said it differently. He wanted her to talk to GR as if GR was her grandmother.

Now, Chief Hong was displaying what “nicely” meant. In a rambling style, he talked about lights in the distance, then squid boats, then GR cleaning squid, and GR being unable to eat her favorite food for years. He was planting the idea in her head that she could view the problem from another perspective, and that she could understand GR if she were to put herself in GR’s shoes.

In short, Chief Hong was teaching her empathy by trying to personalize the problem.

This is different from HyeJin’s style of generalizing the problem. She used a metaphor of a convenience store. She wanted him to understand her, not by personalizing the problem, but by comparing her relationship to GR to an *impersonal* convenience store.

Hong: (getting straight to the point) I’ll pay for the treatment. But I have a favor to ask you.
HJ: Was is it?
Hong: Keep the implant a secret. Tell her it’s some other cheap treatment.
HJ: (inhaling) I can’t do that. As a doctor, I need to take responsibility for what I do. I must notify my patients of the treatment process.
Hong: (exhaling, lol) Fine. Then just remind me of the total cost. Just tell her that you gave her a discount, and I’ll pay the rest.
HJ: Why are you doing this? She doesn’t want it.
Hong: No. She just can’t.

A bit of nuance here. In English, “can’t” means inability to do something. “Won’t” on the other hand means “unwillingness” to do something. To me, Chief Hong is saying something in between. GR can’t do it and won’t do it because self-denial was deeply ingrained in her.

Hong: (continuing) She’s been selfless all her life. So she doesn’t know how to take care of herself.

To Chief Hong, Mrs. Gamri’s selflessness, self-denial, and self-deprivation were admirable traits.

HJ: So she endures the pain? (snorts) How selfish of her.

Hong: “Selfish”?! She’s the most selfless woman I’ve ever met. She did everything she could to provide for her kids. And even now, she doesn’t want to burden them. Don’t you get it?
HJ: No. I don’t understand. It’s foolish and frustrating to watch.
Hong: Why are you so pessimistic?

By pessimistic, Chief Hong meant that she was being negative, and focusing just on the bad aspect of the situation.

HJ: You have no idea what you’re talking about. Do you know what it means to be a good parent? It’s staying healthy for a long time. They shouldn’t endure pain to save money for their children. They should take care of themselves. Do you get it?

And this is when Chief Hong realized that he was the one who didn’t understand all along.

Nope.

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All along, HJ was upset because GR didn’t want to spend money on HER own treatment. Chief Hong was wrong to think that HJ didn’t care for GR. She cared but, like a hedgehog, she showed it in a prickly way.

That’s the theme of this episode: self-care is important. It’s okay to think of one’s own well-being. It’s okay to attend to one’s own needs. It’s also okay to be self-indulgent and selfish.

That’s what Chief Hong told GR later when he paid her a visit. Instead of renewing his offer to pay for the implants, he offered to wash the laundry for her. Then, in his usual roundabout way, he pivoted the conversation to implants without actually talking about implants.

Hong: Grandma, I’m actually upset with you. You accept money from your son, but why not from me? Am I a stranger or what?
GR: Do you want to get drenched again?
Hong: I take it back.

Of course, at this time, neither of them knew that Chief Hong was actually more generous than the son. The son had tuition fees to worry about at the moment, and offered only to pay for dentures in the future.

GR: (listening to the bell) I love the sound of that bell you hung for me.
Hong: Right? Enjoy the sound. And go enjoy a lot of great views and eat a lot of good food. Someone told me that the best thing a parent can do for their child is staying healthy.

HJ told GR the same thing when she dropped by for a visit.

HJ: Toothaches are truly a pity. It doesn’t show so no one but yourself knows how painful it is. Not even your kids. Please come back to the clinic. I can’t do it for free, but I’ll only charge you for the materials.
GR: What?
HJ: But you have to keep it a secret. No one else should know. If people get wind of this, I may have to close down my clinic.
GR: Then you shouldn’t do this for me.
HJ: I heard squid is your favorite food. My mom’s favorite food was sundae. I just want to help you enjoy it again. That’s all.
GR: Dusik must have said something to you. He’s kind but too nosy.
HJ: I agree.
GR: He hung that bell for me.

And that’s the whole point of the “sound” motif for me. The viewers may (or may not, lol) have different takes on the significance of sounds in this episode, but this is mine:

Blessed is he who can hear the sounds that another person makes in the dark and silent recesses of the heart.

Chief Hong is a good listener. He understands the people in the coastal village because he takes time to hear their pain through the “noise” they make.

Their noise is similar the background chatter of the grandmas on the car ride to Seoul, the shocking curses of one of the grandmas at the rude driver, and HyeJin’s insistence that she could drive on her own, and in silence. Normally, Chief Hong can tune out “white noise” and zoom in on what’s essential, painful, and unsaid.

But his weak spot is HyeJin. He can’t quite figure her out yet because of his preconceived notion of who she is.

He realized belatedly that she lied when she said, “My mom passed away. It’s okay. I don’t remember much anyway since I was so little.”

And that’s how the shoe is connected to the whole theme of self-care. Remember how in the beginning he delivered all those packages from the US, Germany, and England, and he lectured her about her spendthrift ways?

He finally understood that her buying spree was her coping mechanism, her way of self-care. She over-compensated because she was still hurting.

At the surface level, it might have seemed like HyeJin only wanted to compete with her classmates from dental school. She didn’t want to look pathetic.

But on a deeper level, HyeJin was simply taking care of her emotional and mental health in the way she knew best. Family gatherings like weddings were a stressful situation for her because they reminded her of the absence of her mother. Like a toothache, her mother’s death was a pain that was visible to no one but herself. She alone knew how painful it was.

Thus, it was just fitting that, in the end, Chief Hong delivered the last package to her: her missing shoe that drifted from nowhere.

Rescuing it and restoring it to wearable condition were his method of apology. Symbolically, too, he was showing her that he understood a little better the pain she was going through.

He indulged her with an extravagant surprise, guaranteed to brighten up her night and day.

I like the ending because it showed that, as perfect as he appeared, Chief Hong could still learn a thing or two from HyeJin.

22 Comments On “Hometown Cha Cha Cha: Ep 3 On Being Self-Centered”

  1. GrowingBeautifully (GB)

    Thanks @pkml3. That’s a lovely perspective on being self-centred, ‘selfish’ or not selfless. In an effort to self-care, I will merely wander in to read from time to time. Catch ya later!

  2. @GB,

    I’ve to tell myself though that binge-watching 6+ episodes of kdrama/cdrama until 2 am in the morning isn’t a valid form of “self-care.” hahaha.

  3. GrowingBeautifully (GB)

    LOL @pkml3, precisely. I’m being a good girl. I’m trying to get enough sleep while getting work done and preparing for the big retreat (which I’m praying hard, will not get cancelled in these Covid times!) I find I need to conserve energy and brain juice, and so I should not over-extend myself. But self-care is hard!!! LOL.

  4. Reading your posts is a form of self-care for me so thank you. 🙂 The messages inspire me and make me think. Not only do I get to understand more about a kdrama I’m watching but I also learn life lessons. “The best thing a parent can do for their child is staying healthy.” As a parent, I forget this and it’s great to be reminded of it. “Blessed is he who can hear the sounds that another person makes in the dark and silent recesses of the heart.” I love this! Some people cannot articulate what’s in their heart and it’s marvelous when another can hear and understand it anyway.

  5. Welcome to the blog, @Laura zZZz.

    😂 Disconnecting from social media is another form of self-care. I’m a proponent of “JOMO,” or the “Joy of Missing Out.”

  6. Thank you @packmule3. Finally got the guts to comment. 🙂 Sometimes social media is the easiest way for me to communicate with family and friends who live afar but I’m trying to take a month-long vacation (?) from it from time to time. Hopefully I’ll be on my way to practicing “JOMO”. 🙂

  7. Oh wow, what an analogy!

    This is the reason why I love reading this blog.

    Thank you so much @packmule3. I like watching this drama and your views make me like it more. I think I’m in until the last episode.

  8. I am gonna enjoy reading you than watching this drama @pm3 hehehehe… yes, I am a proponent of JOMO too and feeling awesome at the moment 😀

    I began to finish YAMS from last ep. I stopped. Hope to finish it soon. Thank you for an insightful review @packmule 3… to listen to sounds of life and be able to understand the woes of others. ^^

  9. @pm3 JOMO ❤️

  10. @pm3 JOMO ❤️❤️❤️🥳🥳🥳 HP2

  11. @angelwingssf,

    You have to complete that…

    JOMO HP2 RIP LOL

  12. GrowingBeautifully (GB)

    @Arihsi @angelwingssf @pkml3 I am happily getting the J in JOMO. Feels so good taking care of myself!! LOL.

    Hometown Cha Cha Cha (HCCC) My Happy Pill (MHP)

    JOMO HP2 RIP HCCC MHP LOL 🙂

  13. There is a scene in the beginning where mr. hong made the candle while thinking about HJ, and later hye jin’s house is the only one that has their lights off in the village. I suspect that this is a scenario that mr. hong created so he can come to HJ house and chat with her, and return her shoes. The lights are on once mr. hong left. Thats my suspicion- did anyone else notice?

  14. Hi JA,

    Welcome to the blog.

    Yes, I saw Chief Hong make the candles. And I saw him take out that candle from his bag. I wasn’t going to mention it but since you brought it up, I’ll give my honest about this scenario.

    1. Strictly in the realm of fantasy romance do I consider this ruse acceptable.

    2. In real life, what he did is a red flag.

    3. I find it sickening that the writer and director would use this as a romantic plot device.

    4. In real life, be wary of a guy who would go to such extreme lengths as to plan a power outage so he could gain entrance to your house. If he could do this to you on the pretext of love, then he could also do this to you on the pretext of hate, revenge, rape, and all the other vices.

    5. Remember: stalking is not love. And stalkers can be handsome, too – with dimples. If Chief Hong had been Hannibal Lecter, it would have been easy for viewers to decry his gesture for what it is: creepy and unhinged.

    Thinking bitches should rate this scene two thumbs down.

    pm3

  15. @packmule3 – I did not even watch the previous episode. It was just exhausting… Sorry for being a party pooper, but might watch with you folks just for the sake of finishing it. It lost its charm from eps 12 of Season 1. I thought that they would at least do some justice in season 2, but nope. Did not happen. Well I will come and read all your posts and nod my head reading it.

  16. I don’t see what was the point to make a power outrage if he is not the one who fixed it to make him look good… She called her landlord who called Chief Hong and he called the electric compagny because he couldn’t do anything. The lights came back at this time was a pure romantic move by the PD.

  17. GrowingBeautifully (GB)

    I agree with @Sayaris. Although I noticed the light come on as he left, I thought it was serendipitous for dramatic purposes and not that it was a result of an intentional move by DS.

  18. @Sayaris,

    This “romantic move” was misapplied in this kdrama. This isn’t the first time this lights on/lights off trope has been used. Many kdramas, e.g., “You From Another Star” have used it before. But typically these events are held OUTSIDE the house, in a public space, in a theme park, by the Han River, on a sidewalk, in school, etc.

    The writer/director of this drama didn’t think it through. They were only pushing the romance which is unfortunate, as it feeds silly ideas to already impressionable fangirls. They won’t see anything wrong with this because the actual risk and danger of being pursued by a man who’d tamper with electrical power would fly over their heads. (wellllll….there are fangirls who don’t have experience in dating in real life.)

    The premise of this romantic scene isn’t kosher. I dislike having to burst the bubble of fangirls out there but it had to be done.

  19. Yes, we have seen that part of HJ’s self-care is treating herself to beautiful clothing and shoes. In the flashback about her former boyfriend, we see she was hurt by his words rejecting her because of her lack of fashion sense. The casual way she dressed back then is similar to how Hong prefers dressing now: comfortably and practically. Her considering Hong a fashion terrorist is not just a rejection of his style now, but her own from the past.

    I also saw the sequence of events about HJ’s power outage as being serendipitous, but with @Packmule3 I did have a few niggling doubts in the back of my mind. I would like to lay the fault on the writer and PD if it appeared creepy and stalkerish. In defense of Hong, he does a lot of crafty work at home such as making soap, infused liquor, etc., so making candles fits his character. HJ called her landlord, as she should; the landlord called Hong, I suppose because he’s the town handyman and he’d been the one who’d done the work preparing HJ’s house for her occupancy. Hong, called to help with a power outage after dark, would likely have had the foresight to bring a source of light. (Although a candle is not sufficient: I’d have thought he’d need a battery-powered lamp that’d give him lots of light with which to work.) Hong, not finding the source of the problem at the fusebox, called the power company, which diagnosed the problem as an issue with the power supply line, as Hong suspected. “They’re looking into it. It’ll get fixed soon.” If it were something Hong manually disconnected, and he didn’t reconnect it himself to look good in HJ’s estimation, the power company would need to send out a technician to restore her service by reconnecting the wire; I think there would be evidence of tampering. Instead, it looks like the problem was solved from within the power company office; from what I’ve read, modern systems have electronic remote switches controlling power to end users. Hong offered to stay with HJ until her roommate returned, and only did so at her invitation. All in all, I thought the sequence of events was on the up and up.

    It was a bit odd that Hong chose the blackout to sneak HJ’s shoe into the closet. Again, in his defense, he’d recently found the shoe and had been working on drying it, so it was probably on his mind when he got the call about HJ’s power outage. He used the opportunity to surprise her with its return. All of this power outage sequence, I believe, was created by the writer to get the shoe back to HJ with dramatic flair. I doubt the writer and PD, lost in their fantasy world centered on kind-hearted Chief Hong, thought about other interpretations of the scenario. If such a situation happened to me in real life, I would probably step outside to talk with whoever responded to the power outage, stay outside while they went inside to investigate, then expect them to remain outside when I went in to wait behind a locked door for resolution.

  20. Great post, as always, @pm3!!! And can I just say that you wrote so well that when I reached the end of your post, which describes the end of the episode, “Romantic Sunday” started playing in my head, right on cue. 🤣👏👏👏

    I caught on the points of selfish/selfless/self-care. 😊

    I also liked that the characters didn’t explain too much or become toooooo melodramatic. Example, when Gamri asked HJ why was she being given a special treatment, HJ simply said, “Because I heard squid is your favorite food. My mother loved sundae.” It was concise and truthful and just the right amount of warmth.

    On the power supply topic, I agree with everyone on the dangers and all.

    But the tone of the show is overall light and happy and straightforward, so in the absence of more blatant revelations (whether in the epilogues or in later episodes) that he willfully caused the power loss in HJ’s house, I will take it as DS / the show says during that blackout scene. That the blackout was genuinely an issue with the power supply line, and all the lights turning on when they did was serendipitous, as well as an artistic touch on the part of the director/writer. 😊 And I agree with @Welmaris’s thoughts above. 😊

    (But needless to say, IRL, always be vigilant! Don’t let just anybody inside your home, including people you’ve only recently met, no matter how helpful or dimply they are.)

  21. Hi packmule! Thank you for amazing post as usual!

    My housemates and I are watching this drama one episode per night and we watched this episode last night, which made me decide that I like this drama so far. I have successfully stopped myself from binge-watching and resolve to watch one for day.

    I’ve been told prior to watching that the heroine isn’t a good person, and my friends reacted vehemently with how Hyejin treated grandma for not wanting to get treatment. But her reaction reminded me of my sister (who’s a doctor) who gets strict and firm with her patients (mostly elderly lol) for not seeking medical help or for not taking their meds, so I knew she wasn’t intentionally being rude but only concerned and only mad because they don’t take care of themselves as much as they should.

    On the subject of the power outage, the only thoughts that crossed my mind when the lights went on was how the lights didn’t turn on all at the same time and how wasteful it is that she had all the lights in the house turned on lol (but could have been just coincidence). The thought of Chief Hong causing the blackout didn’t occur to us, and hopefully fangirls don’t actually think that what happened??? But I won’t put anything past them hehehe.

  22. @Packmule3, I agree that some self-centeredness is healthy. We need to take care of ourselves. HJ lifts her mood with shopping for clothing and shoes, which is okay as long as she stays within budget; if her shopping habits put her in financial strain, then she’s hurting, not helping, herself. Chief Hong takes care of himself by pursuing his part-timer lifestyle, accepting work when and where he wants, then clocking out and having time to pursue his own interests. He appears to have enough money to provide proper food, clothing, and housing for himself. Hong is correct about HJ having a narrow definition of a successful life. For her, it is up to society to judge a person’s success; for him, each person should develop their own vision then live according to it. HJ’s version of success is dismissive of other people’s perceptions of success.

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